Anorexia, Starvation of the Brain, Self-Help Anorexia Nervosa, a Starvation Eating Disorder, is the topic of the book: “Feeding the Starving Mind”. Could this book help your family? It helped our family. Find out why this one little quote is so important. “first step—-that the patient must eat, period”.
This is the beginning. My daughter told me: “I have Anorexia.” She was suffering from a starvation eating disorder called Anorexia Nervosa. Starvation had always meant death to me. It started to mean helplessness, sickness, unhappiness, female, male, family, support, recovery, health, happiness, productivity and much more.
My journey to find her help started. Frantic calls to find a doctor to treat an adult child with Anorexia.
My first mistake was that I ignored my motherly instincts and gave her up to the professionals. I was ignorant. The professionals made me feel even more ignorant because they had the credentials asking who was I? How would I know about this disease? Leave it up to us. What they didn’t say was we are going to leave the family out of the equation.
After years of searching for “the whole truth”, it still eludes me. From what I can tell on my quest, I am not alone.
One book helped me get her into the best Anorexia Nervosa recovery period she has been in since the beginning. I wanted to share it with you. I admit that this book might not be the book for everyone, but if you pick up one thing here and there you are doing well. There is no manual or there wasn’t years ago to lead families through this illness. The internet wasn’t even a resource back then.
The most important quote that I have ever read about Anorexia Nervosa is in this book. It makes sense. It works. It is instinctive.
“I began to investigate the basics of anorexia treatment all of which point to the first step—-that the patient must eat, period.” by Robert Graff, MD.
“Feeding the Starving Mind” is a book by Doreen A. Samelson, ED.D., MSCP. The Foreword was written by Robert Graff, MD. The book is self-described as a…Self-Help Workbook”. Also described as “A Personalized, Comprehensive Approach to Overcoming Anorexia & Other Starvation Eating Disorders”.
Here are a few of the many questions that I asked myself when my daughter brought shock and isolation into my so-called “normal” life.
- Anorexia Nervosa, known as Anorexia, what is it?
- How did my child get Anorexia? Is it my fault?
- How did she keep this secret from me so long? Am I a bad mother for not knowing she had an eating disorder?
- How do I get her well quickly? I want health and happiness for her.
- Who will help me? How do I find a qualified Doctor? Why are eating disorder doctors so hard to find? Why are they therapists and not MDs? If they understand Anorexia Nervosa, do they treat it with good food and nutrition?
- Is Anorexia a mental or physical illness? Is it genetic? What caused the disease? Did poor nutrition cause the disease? Did her insistence on being a vegetarian cause it? She didn’t look ill. I had some instinct that something was going on with her because of the irritability, but she was doing well in school. Perhaps she didn’t like me anymore. Perhaps she was ashamed of me. Did the family cause the disease?
- Can’t I tell her to just eat? I think it is about food first and family first, but not in the way that many therapists, books, and Treatment Centers may tell you. Many will tell you that the family caused it, but I do not believe the family causes Anorexia any more than it causes Cancer. More and more supporters are joining together to dispel this myth. I believe that the myth is often self-serving to Therapists and Treatment Centers. Revolving doors generate cash.
- Will she die like Karen Carpenter? This celebrity was the only person that I had known with this disease.
“Feeding the Starving Mind” is a book that breaks down and answered many of my questions. The author writes in plain English and is simply easy to understand. The four common sense chapters, where the author calls Stages are that of the basics of the illness and recovery.
STAGE I – education–
starvation eating disorder primer: what we know about starvation eating disorders
STAGE II – getting ready–
commitment, team building, and treatment planning
STAGE III – getting well–
STAGE IV – living–
staying healthy and building a life beyond a starvation eating disorder
Most importantly, this book involves non-professional support, the family. I believe in Family-Based Treatment because I have seen and felt it work. My daughter is in the longest recovery period without relapse so far. She has health, happiness, and productivity.
I am a mother who writes because I care, using instinct and nature to guide me. I have no personal to this author or book. It quite simply helped our family and I genuinely hope it helps another family. I am never far from this book.
Anorexia, Starvation of the Brain, Self-Help