Eating Disorder Sufferer says Mother doesn’t understand how the sufferer feels.
The sufferer is right.Â I will never understand what someone with an eating disorder feels.
But I believe that it is possible that Anorexia is physiological in nature rather thanÂ pyschological. I believe the physical disease causes the depression and the poor decision-making because the brain is deprived of fat.
If this is true, why treat the psychological issues until the brain is healthy?
I watched for years while professionals inpatient and outpatient tried to heal my daughter with therapy and it didn’t work.
Her medicine is food. Now she takes her medicine. But it took a battle to get to that point. She is a different person. She can think, make decisions, live independently, she is HAPPY and HEALTHY. She has lost good jobs, relationships and more, but of it all, her health and happiness are the most important. The rest she now has time for (while she is in Recovery) and will enjoy them, rather than just trying to hang on to them without real happiness.
All I am trying to say is that perhaps we humans have lost our instincts and try to think out things too much. Why try the most complicated of resolutions before you first try the basics?
Although someÂ speak well of theirÂ therapists, I would suggest that this bondÂ might be a little dangerous to recovery. Yes, you have so much in common, but what world do you want to live in? I have seen girls bond to the point of going home and coming back because the real world was too hard and the bond was a great escape. I believe that some of the therapists and Centers are just money-making machines and have over-complicated the situation. They turn people loose too soon (without a plan) and it sets some up for failure.
I am a simple person and by sharing my thoughts I hope that at least one person benefits in some way. Sufferers I don’t know you, but am trying to get to know many of you.Â IÂ do care for you because I care for anyone who is ill, whether it be an eating disorder or cancer or a broken leg.
I wish you only the best. I feel compassion for your families. I know more of what they are going through and perhaps it could be said that this is something you won’t understand unless your daughter suffers from this disease, which I say, please no, no, no.
I am available.
A suffering mother in her own Family Recovery